A couple of weeks ago we posted an article on our medium about two of the greatest pioneers in the study of healing, building, and maintaining strong relationships -- we are, of course, referring to Dr. John Gottman and his wife Dr. Julia Gottman. 

These two amazing doctors have conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples and distilled some of the most powerful lessons about what it takes to nourish a wonderful connection.

Here are Two Powerful Excerpts:

1. Love is a skill and a habit, not just a feeling.

“We want couples to understand that love is something you can master.” — Julie Gottman

Their approach isn’t built on grand romantic gestures or idealized notions of partnership, but on small, daily practices accessible to anyone willing to learn. This perfectly aligns with our mission of integrating evidence-based science with holistic care. Every day in our practice, we witness the transformative power of their methods as couples learn to see each other with new eyes and develop the concrete skills that sustain connection.

2. Repair attempts interrupt a negative cycle and soothe issues

“Repair is the secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples,” John noted in The Marriage Clinic (1999, p. 22).

90% of newlyweds who effectively employed repair attempts remained married six years later. This observation emphasizes how these seemingly small gestures function as crucial circuit-breakers in escalating conflict, often making the difference between resolution and continued distress.

Read the whole article here: https://exoduscounselingtn.medium.com/mental-health-heroes-the-gottmans-and-the-science-of-lasting-love-9bf90b0210a6